Wednesday, April 3, 2013

Let's talk about sex, Baby: violence against you and me


Kelly warned me that she would not appreciate it if I defiled her precious blog with photos of midget porn or cat gifs (well, maybe she wouldn't mind the animated kitties as much as the pint-sized romping, but it is better to be safe than sorry), but I had to work in an article about sex somewhere.

A week or two ago I came across this article on the internet, where the author discusses the way that sexual violence is portrayed in popular culture and the differing views there are about sexual violence against men and sexual violence against women. It is an amazing read, so get at it when you have a moment.

The Song of Ice and Fire series, made popular by the recent Game of Thrones TV series, has sexual violence against women and children so prominently, that a friend of mine exclaimed that the R.R. in the author's name probably stood for Rape-Rape.

The recent spate of BDSM novels that hit bookstore shelves after the success of 50 Shades of Grey, glamorised sexual violence against women. Many of the authors exclaimed that the BDSM was consensual, but as the following quote from 50 Shades shows, consensual is relative:
'He grabs me suddenly and yanks me up against him, one hand at my back holding me to him and the other fisting in my hair.
"You're one challenging woman," He kisses me, forcing my lips apart with his tongue, taking no prisoners. 
"It's taking all my self-control not to fuck you on the hood of this car, just to show you that you're mine, and if I want to buy you a fucking car, I'll buy you a fucking car," he growls.' 
 E.L. James, Fifty Shades of Grey


Apart from the really bad sentence constructions, since when do men 'own' women? Since when do we laud barely restrained control in a man who can barely control his urges? Since when do giving away expensive presents give a person a right to do to another whatever he wants?

Another stick in my crop is when authors use sexual violence as character development. Authors who think that a female character cannot have depth unless she's been physically, emotionally or sexually abused are just plain lazy.

So, authors and writers, before you think about writing in a background of sexual violence, do some research about the subject. And make it realistic.
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I’m just another average book freak who happens to be able to think for himself. My views might or might not be controversial, they might or might not be insightful, but they are mine. I do not suggest you remotely agree with them, but I implore you to employ rationality when engaging in arguments. I value logic above intelligence, respect above passion. I urge you to converse with me, because through discourse we will all leave these encounters richer.
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Lood said...

Actually Kel censored me, those squirrels were supposed to be a picture, not a link. Tsk Tsk Tsk....

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